Signed…Better Late Than Never

Hello all,

I wanted to share this letter below that I received today. I am deeply touched that this person, identity unknown, took the time to express himself so openly and honestly. I hope we can all read it and take something from it, whether we are parents or not.

Dear Sandy,

I’m probably not your average reader. I’m a single man without kids.

I take responsibility for the path I have chosen to follow in life and the dreams that have never come to pass because I have never followed them to see where they would lead. Still, there is a part of me that wonders how much different my life would be today if I had a mother who had loved me, the way you love your boys.

I wasn’t yet in the first grade and I remember going to bed at night, looking forward to the hugs and kisses my mom would give me. I loved her so much and couldn’t tell her enough times or kiss her cheek often enough. Then a moment would come, before bed, when she would tell me that she’d had enough and it was time for bed. I would ask her to tell me just one more time that she loved me and she would refuse, telling me that it was getting to be a bit much.

I would begin by asking nicely and when she refused to tell me that she loved me, just one more time, I would begin to beg, “mom, please tell me that you love me, please.” “No”, she would say. “Now go to bed and quit being a baby.”

I remember the feeling of going to bed wondering if I had upset my mom and if she even still loved me at all. In the morning, I would wake up and look for a smile on my mother’s face or a hug to reassure me that she did in fact still love me.

It was this one event that continually reoccured. She quit tucking me in at night because of the fuss it would cause and this is what began the deterioration of my self confidence. From that point forward I remember that I would never hear her say, “I love you” often enough. Even when she did say it, I doubted whether she really meant it or was just saying it so that I would behave.

The feeling of insecurity that comes from believing you must earn your mother’s love, is damaging beyond belief to a child. When I made this observation last week, I began crying uncontrollably.

I just want to say, “Thank you for showing me what love looks like.” From this one observation I have been able to take back control of my emotions and I have a confidence in myself that I have never had before. Now, for the fist time in my life I truly feel comfortable in my own skin.

Better late than never.

Thank you, Mr. single man without kids, for your kind words and for allowing yourself to be vulnerable. I respect you for looking at yourself, and your upbringing, and for being open to learning and growing. I am so happy you are comfortable within your own skin and I wish you so much love and happiness in this life. We all deserve to be loved and I do believe that the need for LOVE begins at birth and continues on always. I am so delighted that you get to move forward and live your life from a different perspective and with a newfound confidence. Much Love and Respect.

Please always tell the ones you LOVE that you LOVE them. Please do your best to show it by being patient, respectful, loving and kind. We all need to hear it and feel it. I choose Love always and I am sending my Love to all of you.


Our Journey Continues

We are on the plane now just above Nicaragua. The boys are incredible travelers and I am amazed each day as I watch them grow. They have no fear. They get excited about each location and the next, and they LOVE getting on airplanes and taking long drives on bumpy roads. As we ascended into the sky a short time ago, Pierce was proclaiming that he wished he could play in the clouds. He said, “ Oh my gosh, that would be so fun and it would be like a soft and cozy bed! I really wish we could bounce on the clouds Mommy.” Of course Aston chimed in and enthusiastically agreed.

We all face fears and challenges in different ways. When I think about the fact that I don’t necessarily love flying, I stare it right in the face. I hold the boys’ hands and I feel their excitement and fearlessness and I look straight out the window and let go. Taking a trip around the world with numerous flights ahead of us truly tests that ability and willingness to face any kind of fear or hesitation in my mind.

As I’m writing this, I realize how little I do fear now, or rather, how much less of a hold fear has on me. I am living. I am letting go and really experiencing life in a different way.
I am so thankful and I will take in each breath with love and gratitude. I will keep my heart and eyes open and enjoy each and every moment.

Costa Rica was the beginning of our journey and now we are on to the next chapter. I wondered how I would feel 2 days in, 2 weeks in and so on. Usually while on a vacation, there is a point after about 2-3 weeks where you kind of miss home. Although you may have amazing experiences elsewhere, you are ready for the familiar life that comforts you each day.

I am actually present to today and ready for all that lies ahead. I miss my family and our dog Savvy very much. Thankfully we are in touch via text, face time and emails. This wonderful gift of technology changes everything and makes feeling connected so much easier. Facebook and blogging make being on the road such a richer experience. I get to share photos and thoughts with all of you and I love receiving all of your responses and kind words each day. I’m so happy I also get to be a part of your lives each day. Connection. It is the most beautiful and wonderful thing.

We enjoyed peaceful surroundings throughout Costa Rica. The highlights for me were the hot springs in Tabacon, the Arenal volcano, and Punta Islita on the Nicoya Peninsula. I loved seeing all of the different species throughout the places we visited. The boys were fascinated and engrossed in each new adventure. This is life for them. This is education. Just waking up and experiencing anything and everything before them. How lovely is that. I feel so lucky that this is my agenda as well. I get to be present to them and view the world through the eyes of such open, innocent, fearless and passionate little hearts and souls.

Our little superheroes are touching the lives of many. It’s very powerful. I see faces light up around us and people are always coming over and expressing love for our family. It inspires me that we can connect so easily with others from places all around the world. It was such a pleasure meeting those of you we’ve encountered so far and I look forward to those of you we are destined to meet in the future.

It’s interesting how you can meet someone, far out in the middle of nowhere and you realize how they were put there for a reason. We were meant to meet and connect in this life. That is a very powerful feeling and always remember that as people cross your path each day. Wherever you are.

Thank you all so much for being a part of this journey with us. Our next stop is Argentina. Stay tuned for more day to day experiences in the life of a Mom, a Dad and two little superheroes from the road.

Much Love Always.


Our Journey Begins

Asleep on plane
I am sitting on the plane en route to Costa Rica…both boys on my lap asleep, my husband a few seats down asleep as well, and I am so grateful for this quiet time to share. I have so much to say and I only hope I’m able to convey some of it in these precious moments.

When I first suggested we take this trip as a family around the world a few years ago, I remember the surprise and enthusiasm my husband experienced as he pondered the idea. I’ll never forget the look on his face and the light that shined within him in those minutes.

There are so many roads to take in this life. There are so many choices. I’ve never been one to take the road most traveled and since becoming a parent, I’ve truly found a path and many side streets that are my own. I’ve been questioned and doubted along the way and as I always say, I’m sure that will continue and that is just fine.

This story and idea of traveling with our family first began as an idea, a thought and perhaps even a dream. I do believe strongly in visualizing what you really want and putting your energy, passion and love into everything around it. That said, with the actions and intentions, I also believe things happen the way they are supposed to…when they are supposed to.

So, here we are. We are at the beginning of a new chapter in our lives. We are facing the unknown with all eyes open. Inspiration, love, and excitement are taking over our beings as we fly away to new lands and toward new experiences.

The preparation of this journey alone sparked new life in all of us. Our sons not only took an interest in world maps because they found them fascinating and colorful, but also, because they wanted to understand the world we were planning to tread our feet on. They want to talk about the food in each country, the sports played, the modes of transportation we will take, and mostly, of course, which superhero costumes they will be wearing in each place along the way.

Curiosity is one of the greatest gifts we are born with. Sadly, I believe society often wants to squander that natural curiosity in an attempt to place everyone in the “traditional” norms most people find to be comfortable.

I am thankful and proud to say that I didn’t conform. I didn’t let anyone take my curiosity away or the spirit that makes me, ME. I will do everything in my power to give our children the opportunity to explore this world freely and openly. I want them to discover and create who they want to be in it with all of the love, determination and free spirited nature of their precious little souls.

This is how I choose to parent. This is what I believe will empower my sons with all of the tools necessary to grow and thrive in this world that so badly wants to make everyone the same. As Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”

I thank you all for joining us on this adventure. I thank you for your enthusiasm and support. I am grateful for technology and the amazing gift of social media and networking. It allows us to stay connected and truly share and experience things together. I often hear people refer to the social media world as a cold and distant excuse for communication. I disagree. I’m sorry I don’t get to see or talk to many of you more often than I do but I am so thankful we at least have this connection and communication.

When we are honest and real and authentic in who we are and what we share with one another, I am touched, moved and inspired. I want you to know that we are connected for a reason. I hope you believe the same.

Here’s to an enlightening, thought-provoking, fascinating, soulful and loving adventure. My wish is for all of us to allow new awakenings and perspectives for and within ourselves. More risks and less fear. More action and less hesitation. More Love, More Love and More Love.

We are just over Costa Rica right now and I am feeling the importance and magnitude of this very moment. Allow yourself to do the same, no matter where you are. This is your life. Live it the way you want to and don’t back down.

Much Love from this crew of superheroes above the clouds and beyond.


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